I recommend the following course of action for those who are just beginning their careers, or for those like me, who may be reconfiguring midway through: heed the words of Robert Frost. Start with a big, fat lump in your throat, start with a profound sense of wrong, a deep homesickness, or a crazy love sickness, and run with it.
Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.
The poor steamer foundered because it drifted…the man who has no aim higher than himself also drifts…Do not drift, but steer.
James Freeman Clarke, Everyday Religion (1886) p.6 (Unitarian, clergy, reformer)
If you want to have what you have not, you must do what you do not.